A Reflection of Emotions as the greatest suffering and illusion of individuality

by Corpus Cantopen

“Finding someone to love is not the solution to loneliness. The solution is to learn to love yourself—your loneliness will only be a memory.” [Intimate Connection, David D. Burns]

Here, I will try to read what has become my point of view through David D. Burns on the meaning of cognition in terms of words like “factual” and “truth”. How would we interpret these words in our daily lives as individuals? I had to emphasize “love” as a word because it led me to an absurd conclusion.

In regards to the sense of feelings into an emotional[1] reality, about loneliness based on marital status, which he called an Intimate Connection, so my question is, how important is a relationship in human life?

In my opinion, the “Harem Principle”[2] is more related to the path of social life than to its complexities. Rather than “love” itself as a word and action. From here, my concern turns to the thought of a connection in every individual, which tends to be the great illusion of the material circle as a mutual connection in the universe.

While the connection needs both physical and personal experience to create a memory, this leads us to a sense of being secure and insecure. Then this comes into contradistinction. How do we learn to understand and maintain the love of “thyself” or “yourself”? And how does loneliness become our great emotion as an effort?

I see that relationship in a circle of life as having no future, but it’s about the “process” and “progress” until we are able to have some sense of needs as Feeling Good.

Culture is not an absolute answer, but language is, with both literature and body language as its boundaries. I called this a psychosomatic symptom of civilization as an unfinished human study. From a scientific standpoint, it appears that behavior study has hit a significant stumbling block between learning the social literature language as psychology and the innovation of psychopharmacology as our foundation.

My big question after reading two books by David D. Burns is whether the word “depression” as a human condition is actually a correct word? Therefore, are antidepressants and a certain way of psychotherapy fixated on the evaluation of love and loneliness because life is about sensing emotions in suffering as a process itself?

I will summarize my final understanding of observing social conditions during the pandemic with the IPT: “A therapist should help the patient identify any interpersonal issues he or she wants to address, and rank them in order of importance. The therapist should also offer support regarding clarification of issues, communication analysis, and supportive listening.”[3] This became my initial reference to explore David D. Burns' thoughts in the field of emotion and psychotherapy in the following human study in “Cognitive Behavioural Therapy.”[4]

A contemplated act in meditating the self, as I called it, the Great Silence, reminds me of 4’33.[5]

*footnotes: [1] https://emotion.wisc.edu/wp-content/uploads/sites/1353/2020/11/Cannon_1927AmJPsych.pdf [2] https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Harem [3] https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/therapy-types/interpersonal-psychotherapy [4] https://soundcloud.com/user-274229294/cognitive-behavioral-therapy [5] https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JTEFKFiXSx4